Ask permission to discuss this topic
Asking permission will assure your loved one that you will respect and honor their wishes.

Select the right time and place
Selecting the right time and place to start this conversation is as important as deciding upon the topics to discuss. Here are some hints for setting the right time & place:

• Pick a compatible time. If your loved one is a morning person, then choosing a time after breakfast might be the best. Likewise, if it is common for you to have conversations around an evening meal, then that time should be selected. Perhaps having this conversation over a glass of wine or evening cup of coffee is best for you both.
• Make sure there are no distractions to interrupt you during this conversation.
• Be prepared to talk frankly and honestly.

Know what the options are
Becoming familiar with end-of-life care options available in your community will help you to have a clearer conversation.

Be a good listener
As you start this conversation with your family, you must remember to listen for the wants and needs that your love one expresses. With truthful conversation, empathy and respect, you and your family can come to a better understanding about the choices at the end of life.